Early marriage, is it right or wrong?
Marriage is a very critical issue, it isn't just a union between two people, it's about love, ability to understand the personality of your spouse, ability to face challenges together and ability to stay together.
I have been thinking about this for a while now and my opinion is that early marriages are wrong especially for young teenage girls. Most people see it as a tradition or custom, most especially people in the northern part of Nigeria, but I feel this tradition should stop. It is also a religious belief to Muslims that early marriages are right and I am not opposing anybody. I am just saying my own opinion.
Why would a girl of just 16 or 17 get married to a man far older than her probably in his late 30's or early 40's because it is a tradition?
Most girls around that age don't even know a thing about marital life. They are still in the puberty stage so giving them out to grown up men is so wrong.
These girls have their whole life ahead of them. Getting married at that tender age is like bondage, it is like offering your whole life to one person. The man will be the one to take care of her, sponsor her to school and she will constantly be at his mercy, she will have to bend to his will whether she likes it or not. Even when challenges arise in the home, she wont know to handle these challenges. Whether her husband cheats on her or treats her badly she won't have a say in anything, obviously because he has turned to her second god. He's the one that provides for her, clothes her and feeds her so she has to obey him all the time. The unfortunate thing is that she will have to be with him for the rest of her life.
Why should girls be kept in this bondage? Living a life of sadness and regret. I once read an article that said child marriage is a human right violation and i totally agree. Our girls should be able to go to school, have their different degrees, be able to stand on their own, grow up to the woman they want to be, understand what love is and what marriage really entails, know her partner's personality, make up her mind and have every woman's enthusiasm of getting married before going into a marriage. This is my opinion.
I need everyone's opinion on this, if you think it's right, state your reasons and if you think it's wrong, state your reasons too. Drop your comments
I have been thinking about this for a while now and my opinion is that early marriages are wrong especially for young teenage girls. Most people see it as a tradition or custom, most especially people in the northern part of Nigeria, but I feel this tradition should stop. It is also a religious belief to Muslims that early marriages are right and I am not opposing anybody. I am just saying my own opinion.
Why would a girl of just 16 or 17 get married to a man far older than her probably in his late 30's or early 40's because it is a tradition?
Most girls around that age don't even know a thing about marital life. They are still in the puberty stage so giving them out to grown up men is so wrong.
These girls have their whole life ahead of them. Getting married at that tender age is like bondage, it is like offering your whole life to one person. The man will be the one to take care of her, sponsor her to school and she will constantly be at his mercy, she will have to bend to his will whether she likes it or not. Even when challenges arise in the home, she wont know to handle these challenges. Whether her husband cheats on her or treats her badly she won't have a say in anything, obviously because he has turned to her second god. He's the one that provides for her, clothes her and feeds her so she has to obey him all the time. The unfortunate thing is that she will have to be with him for the rest of her life.
Why should girls be kept in this bondage? Living a life of sadness and regret. I once read an article that said child marriage is a human right violation and i totally agree. Our girls should be able to go to school, have their different degrees, be able to stand on their own, grow up to the woman they want to be, understand what love is and what marriage really entails, know her partner's personality, make up her mind and have every woman's enthusiasm of getting married before going into a marriage. This is my opinion.
I need everyone's opinion on this, if you think it's right, state your reasons and if you think it's wrong, state your reasons too. Drop your comments
Well early marriage ... To some culture is a norm! While to others it a taboo ..
ReplyDeleteFine ... The northerners give out their daughters out in d name of marriage ... To dem that their cultural values .. Norms & traditions , in which dey still practice till now
ReplyDeleteBut to me .. I don't see early marriage being
ReplyDeleteWrong..
Really.. Why?
DeletePeople to their believe ...or choice ...marriage Is an institution any1 can go into
DeleteRegardless of their age
Early marriage is totally wrong to me. It just defiles all moral standards regarding marriage. Marriage are for grown ups because it requires alot of metal, physical, financial enduring capabilities between both parties and not just one. So to me its wrong and should be stopped at all cost
ReplyDeleteGrown ups ...y den are people stepping on d wrong foot ..
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